If you read my New Year article, you see how I feel frustrated at times being single in college especially in a modern era. Tinder is the rave and has been deemed a hookup app over here. Nevertheless, it can be disappointing when you know you’re the whole package, yet you’re still single. You can have the looks, brains, and confidence, yet guys will overlook that and settle for a one night stand. Every time a friend of mine enters a new relationship, I just wonder, when it will be my time. But then, I sit back and realize all the joys I have now without a boy annoying me.
I Pamper Myself
Okay so there are times when I just look like a busted college student. But ever since I grew and started taking care of my natural hair, I feel much more confident and beautiful. In Beyonce and Nicki’s voice, I’m always feeling myself in the mirror especially when I have a gorgeous outfit on. Like who wouldn’t be lucky to have this beaut by her side.
I Work
Being single in college has its financial perks. There’s nothing better than a girl having her own bag (money on the side). It makes me feel empowered and nevertheless, it reminds me that I just don’t have time for anyone else. Of course, if someone comes along, that would be great. But, I can definitely say that having a job has raised my standards on the type of guy I want. Patient, understanding, and driven.
Talk to Like-Minded Friends
I only have about two friends who think the way I do. They don’t like the Tinder game and like me, they feel frustrated with the
Watch Other People’s Relationships
This sounds bad but relax. Have you ever noticed other people’s relationships and just saw their mistakes crumble in front of you. Well after a very close friend got out of a failed relationship, we started talking about what went wrong in detail. Although hearing this was sad because it left my friend pretty broken, it gave me insight on what signals I should avoid. Nevertheless, it gave me insight as to what I don’t want: a draining relationship in my college year.
I Study
I literally had a mid life crisis last week because of my career. Yet, I am only 19 like what. I have so much to focus on now that it would literally be hard for me to dedicate myself to someone else. With homework piling up, how am I gonna respond to love texts.
At times, I would frown seeing a couple making out all in love. Having your inner circle have partners as well doesn’t help either. I even made a Zoosk account because I felt like love seems impossible for me. Though after having that account for one day, I have been messaged and liked by many guys, though the majority are older. I saw some cute guys my age and this did change my online dating opinion. But I’m just browsing. I’m just not ready yet because of time and sanity. Plus I’m still old school and prefer in-person meetups. Nevertheless, I love my own company and my own drama-free still crazy world. There is so much pressure as a college student to be in a relationship and that it gets annoying. Enjoy yourself and the freedom you have because someone wishes they would have it. Don’t settle!